222. How To Become More Compassionate When We Are Burnt Out?

[00:00:09] Hi friends, welcome to another episode of Making Disciples. My name is Cris and I am your host. Hey, how are you doing?

[00:00:16] I'm hoping that you've had a good week and that you're seeing God at work in your life.

[00:00:21] Welcome to the podcast that explores topics of discipleship and today we're going to be exploring exactly that.

[00:00:29] I would argue that discipleship is loving and obeying God with your head, your heart and your hands.

[00:00:38] Loving and obeying. Sometimes people make faith about God loves you and therefore love God back.

[00:00:48] That's enough. Well actually the Great Commission says, you know, teach them to obey.

[00:00:54] And so discipleship is loving God in response to his love for us, but it's also obeying God in response to the salvation that we've received.

[00:01:04] Like doing the stuff now that Jesus asks us to do, to live our lives, to glorify him.

[00:01:11] And you can talk about this in terms of salvation and sanctification, you know, working out your salvation.

[00:01:18] So we're working out our salvation. We're working it out. We're obeying God.

[00:01:22] We're doing what he wants us to do in our heads, our hands and our hearts.

[00:01:30] And what I want to look at today is discipleship of the heart.

[00:01:34] Discipleship of the heart.

[00:01:36] I would say this is one of those areas that we can neglect focusing on what's happening inside of us.

[00:01:47] And if we don't watch ourselves carefully, we can find ourselves in places that we don't want to be, you know, lusting after things we don't want to be lusting after.

[00:01:56] But also in the opposite direction, you know, apathy, becoming apathetic of the things that God does not want us to be apathetic of.

[00:02:04] You know, this is what Jesus says in Revelation, isn't it?

[00:02:06] You have forsaken your first love.

[00:02:07] You've become apathetic of your faith, apathetic for what I have done for you, your first love in terms of loving God.

[00:02:17] So we're going to be thinking about the heart today and the phraseology that I just find really helpful talks about this in Ezekiel.

[00:02:27] And well, I'll explore this more in a minute when we actually get into the episode.

[00:02:30] But it talks about a heart of stone to a heart of flesh.

[00:02:35] And what I would recognize is this.

[00:02:38] A heart of stone is a heart that's been hardened by sin or about the difficulties of life that we go through and our heart becomes hardened.

[00:02:49] And Jesus wants to get his hands on our hearts to soften our hearts.

[00:02:55] So we've got hearts of compassion, but we also have hearts that are not riddled with sin, sinful desires, lusts and greed.

[00:03:04] He wants us to have a heart that are soft, compassionate, caring, but also desiring holiness and love.

[00:03:13] So this is what we're going to be exploring today.

[00:03:15] We're going to be looking at, I've entitled this, From Stone to Flesh, Transforming the Hardened Heart.

[00:03:22] So the question for us, I've been exploring today, is like, what is it for you that might be the next thing that you need to see God soften in your heart?

[00:03:33] Very often, there's areas of hardenedness in our hearts.

[00:03:39] You know, it's very rare that you find Christians where their entire heart is hard.

[00:03:43] But, you know, many of us, we have these calluses, we have these moments, these places in our lives where rather than having a soft, compassionate heart,

[00:03:51] there's just areas that have damage to us or sin that's got hold of our heart and it's become twisted or it's just become hard.

[00:04:01] And so we're going to be looking at, you know, how do we be transformed in our hearts as disciples of Jesus?

[00:04:08] How do we come to have hearts that are like God's?

[00:04:11] So that is what we are going to be looking at today.

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[00:04:47] We're going to jump straight in as we start to explore together a heart of stone to a heart of flesh, transforming the hardened heart.

[00:05:06] Well, why don't we start by reading scripture?

[00:05:09] That feels like a really good place to start, doesn't it?

[00:05:12] So Ezekiel 11, 19 in the NIV translation says this.

[00:05:16] I will give them a undivided heart.

[00:05:20] I put a new spirit in them.

[00:05:22] I will remove from them the heart of stone and give them a heart of flesh.

[00:05:26] Which is very similar to Ezekiel 36, 26.

[00:05:29] It says, I will give you a new heart, put a new spirit in you.

[00:05:33] I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh.

[00:05:37] This image of hardened hearts to fleshy hearts.

[00:05:40] This is a metaphor that you find, particularly in Old Testament.

[00:05:42] Ezekiel really loves this kind of language.

[00:05:46] Did you notice though in Ezekiel 11, 19 it said that?

[00:05:49] I will give them a undivided heart.

[00:05:52] Wow!

[00:05:53] Isn't that interesting?

[00:05:54] I would recognise so many times in my life I have a divided heart.

[00:05:59] I'm divided on things.

[00:06:01] I know what I shouldn't do, but I do it anyway.

[00:06:04] A divided heart.

[00:06:07] A heart that wants to seek God whilst at the same time is seeking the things of the flesh.

[00:06:12] A divided heart.

[00:06:13] And Ezekiel 11 says that God will give us his spirit.

[00:06:19] And when he gives us his spirit, I will give them an undivided heart.

[00:06:25] Our hearts will no longer be torn down the middle where we're seeking God and seeking the flesh.

[00:06:32] I'm going to give them an undivided heart.

[00:06:33] I'm going to put a new spirit in them.

[00:06:35] That's the work of the Holy Spirit.

[00:06:37] And I'll remove from them the heart of stone.

[00:06:40] I'm going to give them a heart of flesh.

[00:06:43] Friends, God does his part.

[00:06:46] God does his part.

[00:06:48] God pours out his Holy Spirit and is wanting to soften our hearts and make them fleshy hearts.

[00:06:56] From a heart of stone to a heart of flesh.

[00:06:59] The problem is sometimes God is in the business of softening and transforming and renewing our hearts.

[00:07:05] But we are in the business of constantly hardening whatever God is doing.

[00:07:10] It's like we're asking God,

[00:07:11] God suffer my heart.

[00:07:11] But yet at the same time our sinfulness causes us to keep hardening and keep hardening.

[00:07:16] We're not changing.

[00:07:17] Like we're not doing our side of the deal.

[00:07:21] We need God to do his bit.

[00:07:24] And we need to do our bit.

[00:07:26] This is where discipleship comes in.

[00:07:28] Faith in Jesus does not mean everything will suddenly become rosy.

[00:07:34] Not suddenly perfect.

[00:07:35] Suddenly our sin isn't disappearing.

[00:07:37] That is happening.

[00:07:38] But it's happening at the same time as us working out our salvation.

[00:07:44] As Paul says it.

[00:07:46] As we work out our sanctification.

[00:07:48] As we work out what does it now mean to be people who are saved.

[00:07:53] So God is doing his part.

[00:07:55] But we also need to do our part.

[00:07:58] I was talking to somebody just a few weeks ago who's in recovery.

[00:08:01] And they kept saying,

[00:08:02] I keep praying that God would take the cravings away.

[00:08:06] And I keep saying that's a good thing to pray.

[00:08:08] Pray that God would do his part.

[00:08:10] But also you need to be praying for your part.

[00:08:14] You know, what do you need to be doing?

[00:08:17] What's your part in this process?

[00:08:19] Because you can't just wash your hands and say,

[00:08:21] God, you need to deal with this.

[00:08:23] It's you and God together.

[00:08:26] And that's discipleship, isn't it?

[00:08:28] It's not just saying, God, deal with this.

[00:08:30] It's saying, God, deal with this with me as I work with you.

[00:08:35] So there are things that you may need to do

[00:08:38] that will work out your part if you have got a hardened heart.

[00:08:43] So I just want to hit this kind of at the start and say,

[00:08:46] friends, you might need to see a counsellor to work out

[00:08:49] or work through your trauma or your family hurt

[00:08:53] or your childhood or, you know, whatever it is.

[00:08:56] If you've been in an abusive marriage, abusive relationships,

[00:09:00] you had abusive parents, you know,

[00:09:01] whatever you've experienced in life,

[00:09:03] you may need to see a counsellor.

[00:09:05] And seeing a counsellor does not mean that God's not at work

[00:09:09] and the counsellor's now at work.

[00:09:10] Of course, God can work through counsellors

[00:09:12] and will work through counsellors.

[00:09:14] And God works alongside counsellors.

[00:09:17] Those who are wise at speaking into our lives

[00:09:20] help diagnosing problems.

[00:09:22] They're working alongside God and his Holy Spirit,

[00:09:26] not against.

[00:09:27] So don't think it's either one or the other.

[00:09:30] Because I have had people say to me,

[00:09:32] I don't need to talk to a counsellor because I'm filled with the Holy Spirit

[00:09:35] and God will deal with whatever God wants to deal with.

[00:09:38] And it's true.

[00:09:39] God does work through his Holy Spirit in restoring us.

[00:09:43] But God also works through counselling,

[00:09:47] through therapy and through, you know,

[00:09:50] spiritual direction, mentorship.

[00:09:53] So yes, it's God's Spirit and it's through help.

[00:09:58] These two things go together.

[00:10:00] So God does his part, but you need to do your part.

[00:10:04] And you might need to see a counsellor or a therapist

[00:10:08] to work through your trauma or your hurt.

[00:10:10] So I'm saying that up front

[00:10:12] because I think that just needs to be underlined.

[00:10:16] That if you have got a hardened heart,

[00:10:19] it may be that you need more

[00:10:21] than just simply praying and waiting on the Holy Spirit.

[00:10:24] You might need to spend time with somebody to help unpack this with you.

[00:10:30] So just give that some thought.

[00:10:31] So let's understand,

[00:10:32] let's try and understand the heart of stone for a moment.

[00:10:35] You know, what is a heart of stone?

[00:10:39] So let's look at the characteristics

[00:10:41] that you might see of somebody who has a heart of stone.

[00:10:45] Characteristics are things like

[00:10:47] a sense of numbness,

[00:10:50] a sense of numbness where that person

[00:10:51] isn't necessarily engaging

[00:10:53] with the depth of something.

[00:10:56] They're kind of skirting on the surface.

[00:10:58] They're not allowing their true emotion

[00:11:00] behind something to come out.

[00:11:02] And it's like they're just numb.

[00:11:04] They're numbed themselves

[00:11:05] so they don't have to deal with their emotions.

[00:11:09] I think the word indifference,

[00:11:13] super, super helpful.

[00:11:14] Just having this indifferent to,

[00:11:15] like, I just don't care.

[00:11:17] I just don't care anymore.

[00:11:19] Or I don't care about this situation.

[00:11:21] Don't care.

[00:11:22] I noticed recently

[00:11:24] that there's been so much in the media

[00:11:26] over the last 12 months.

[00:11:27] Well, last couple of years actually, isn't it?

[00:11:29] Around war, invasion,

[00:11:32] attacking, bombs,

[00:11:35] military shooting,

[00:11:36] you know, all this kind of stuff.

[00:11:37] And I found myself this summer

[00:11:39] reading the news

[00:11:42] in relation to

[00:11:44] the war that's going on

[00:11:46] between Israel, Gaza, Palestine,

[00:11:49] Lebanon,

[00:11:50] and just finding myself

[00:11:53] being quite indifferent at times.

[00:11:55] And I realised it was,

[00:11:57] I'd just seen,

[00:11:58] I'd been so bombarded

[00:12:00] with this traumatic news

[00:12:03] that I had

[00:12:04] tried to protect myself

[00:12:06] by becoming indifferent.

[00:12:08] Just kind of like,

[00:12:09] it's never going to change.

[00:12:11] And actually,

[00:12:12] that's a sign

[00:12:13] of a heart of stone

[00:12:15] where you're not allowing

[00:12:16] the depth

[00:12:18] of some trauma

[00:12:20] or horrendous event

[00:12:21] to really permeate.

[00:12:23] And,

[00:12:24] which kind of looks

[00:12:25] my next little point here,

[00:12:26] so you had numbness,

[00:12:27] we've had indifference,

[00:12:28] but I think there's also

[00:12:30] a characteristic

[00:12:31] of self-protection.

[00:12:34] This isn't when you put in

[00:12:36] healthy boundaries.

[00:12:37] This is where you're putting in

[00:12:39] boundaries that go beyond health.

[00:12:40] You just,

[00:12:41] you're so boundaried

[00:12:43] because you're trying to keep

[00:12:44] things at arm's length.

[00:12:46] You're trying to keep things

[00:12:47] at arm's length.

[00:12:48] And they can be characteristics

[00:12:49] of a heart of stone.

[00:12:52] What are the signs?

[00:12:54] Well,

[00:12:55] I think one sign

[00:12:56] could be,

[00:12:57] could be the difficulty

[00:12:58] with empathy.

[00:12:59] It's kind of relating

[00:13:00] to some things

[00:13:01] I've just been talking about.

[00:13:02] Not being empathetic

[00:13:04] to other people's situations.

[00:13:06] And not really

[00:13:08] taking in

[00:13:09] what somebody else

[00:13:10] is saying.

[00:13:11] And you're becoming,

[00:13:14] you have no empathy

[00:13:16] for somebody

[00:13:17] who's in front of you

[00:13:17] who's really going through it.

[00:13:19] You know,

[00:13:20] you start to say,

[00:13:20] well,

[00:13:20] it's your own fault.

[00:13:22] You know,

[00:13:22] you've done this,

[00:13:22] you've done that.

[00:13:24] You've allowed that to happen.

[00:13:25] You know,

[00:13:26] where you realise,

[00:13:27] actually,

[00:13:27] I've got no empathy here.

[00:13:29] I'm just not allowing

[00:13:31] this person

[00:13:32] to reveal to me

[00:13:35] their pain

[00:13:36] and allow it

[00:13:36] to really sit with me.

[00:13:38] So difficulty with empathy.

[00:13:39] I think we put up

[00:13:40] emotional walls

[00:13:42] where we allow

[00:13:43] ourselves

[00:13:43] to not deal

[00:13:44] with something.

[00:13:46] So we allow

[00:13:47] a bit of distance

[00:13:48] between an event.

[00:13:50] I think,

[00:13:50] you know,

[00:13:51] when I'm reading the news,

[00:13:52] just creating

[00:13:53] an emotional wall

[00:13:54] so that I don't really

[00:13:56] have to engage

[00:13:56] with this at all.

[00:13:59] I think another sign

[00:14:00] will be the fear

[00:14:01] of vulnerability,

[00:14:01] not being willing

[00:14:03] to be vulnerable.

[00:14:05] And I did sit

[00:14:06] with somebody recently

[00:14:07] and they're normally

[00:14:09] somebody who gives

[00:14:09] a lot of eye contact.

[00:14:11] They're often,

[00:14:11] you know,

[00:14:11] when they're talking to you,

[00:14:12] they're looking at you,

[00:14:13] and just as I was

[00:14:15] talking to this individual,

[00:14:16] I really felt

[00:14:16] that they were in a place

[00:14:18] where they didn't

[00:14:19] want to be vulnerable

[00:14:20] and they didn't

[00:14:21] want to be honest

[00:14:21] with what's going on

[00:14:23] and, you know,

[00:14:23] there was just

[00:14:23] no eye contact.

[00:14:26] They were doing

[00:14:27] everything they could

[00:14:27] to kind of sit

[00:14:28] at a bit of a distance.

[00:14:30] You know,

[00:14:30] what was going on there

[00:14:31] was there was just

[00:14:32] this fear

[00:14:33] of vulnerability.

[00:14:34] If I'm vulnerable,

[00:14:36] am I going to be able

[00:14:37] to cope with what

[00:14:38] I'm talking about?

[00:14:39] And the other thing

[00:14:40] that people phrase,

[00:14:42] you know,

[00:14:42] it's been used

[00:14:43] more and more recently

[00:14:44] is this idea

[00:14:45] of compassion fatigue.

[00:14:47] Just having fatigue

[00:14:50] over a traumatic event.

[00:14:55] You know,

[00:14:56] it could be that

[00:14:56] somebody keeps coming

[00:14:57] back to you

[00:14:58] over and over

[00:14:59] and over about

[00:14:59] the same thing.

[00:15:00] You just end up,

[00:15:00] you know,

[00:15:01] you just think,

[00:15:02] I can't be able

[00:15:02] to listen to this anymore.

[00:15:03] I'm tired of listening

[00:15:06] to you repeating

[00:15:07] the same thing over.

[00:15:08] And it's compassion fatigue.

[00:15:10] Sometimes when you've

[00:15:11] helped somebody

[00:15:13] so much,

[00:15:14] you've helped and helped

[00:15:15] and helped and helped

[00:15:16] that you've just got

[00:15:16] to the point of burnout

[00:15:17] and what that then becomes

[00:15:19] is compassion fatigue

[00:15:20] where you've got

[00:15:21] no compassion

[00:15:22] to give

[00:15:23] to anybody.

[00:15:26] So what are the root

[00:15:26] causes then

[00:15:27] of this heart of stone?

[00:15:30] Past hurts.

[00:15:32] Past hurts.

[00:15:32] Things that have

[00:15:33] happened to us.

[00:15:35] Traumatic events

[00:15:36] that might have

[00:15:36] happened to us

[00:15:37] that we might have seen

[00:15:38] or might have

[00:15:39] experienced ourselves.

[00:15:41] Another cause would be

[00:15:43] through disappointment.

[00:15:44] You've been let down

[00:15:45] by somebody

[00:15:46] time and time

[00:15:47] and time again.

[00:15:50] I knew somebody

[00:15:52] a number of years ago

[00:15:53] who their husband

[00:15:55] had had an affair

[00:15:56] and she'd let him

[00:15:58] back home.

[00:15:58] He had apologised

[00:16:00] and they started

[00:16:02] to reconcile.

[00:16:03] He then had another

[00:16:04] affair

[00:16:04] and she let him

[00:16:07] back in the home

[00:16:08] and he apologised

[00:16:11] and they were trying

[00:16:12] to get some counselling

[00:16:13] and then he had

[00:16:14] another affair

[00:16:15] and actually

[00:16:17] you just had

[00:16:18] one disappointment

[00:16:19] after another

[00:16:20] disappointment

[00:16:20] after another

[00:16:21] disappointment

[00:16:22] after another

[00:16:22] disappointment

[00:16:23] and the way

[00:16:25] that she

[00:16:27] worked out

[00:16:28] she could cope

[00:16:28] with this

[00:16:29] because it's

[00:16:30] very traumatic

[00:16:32] going through that event

[00:16:32] you know

[00:16:33] very emotionally

[00:16:34] draining

[00:16:36] she'd actually

[00:16:37] hit this place

[00:16:38] of lack

[00:16:39] of vulnerability

[00:16:39] didn't want to be

[00:16:40] full of vulnerability

[00:16:41] she had put

[00:16:43] some emotional

[00:16:44] walls up

[00:16:44] so that she

[00:16:45] didn't have to

[00:16:45] engage with the

[00:16:46] emotion of this

[00:16:48] and she'd just

[00:16:49] become incredibly

[00:16:50] fatigued

[00:16:51] she had no

[00:16:52] energy at all

[00:16:53] and really what

[00:16:55] this was all

[00:16:55] revealing was

[00:16:56] she had a heart

[00:16:58] that was hurt

[00:16:59] she had a heart

[00:17:00] that was hurt

[00:17:00] and that heart

[00:17:01] the way that she'd

[00:17:02] been able to deal

[00:17:03] with that heart

[00:17:06] hurt heart

[00:17:07] was just to

[00:17:08] harden it

[00:17:10] and to

[00:17:11] to stop herself

[00:17:13] from being

[00:17:13] being hurt

[00:17:14] again

[00:17:15] and

[00:17:17] sadly

[00:17:17] the marriage

[00:17:18] did end

[00:17:19] but as

[00:17:20] as you kind of

[00:17:21] spent time

[00:17:23] with her

[00:17:23] you could see

[00:17:23] that the way

[00:17:24] that she had

[00:17:25] kind of worked

[00:17:26] through this

[00:17:27] the way that

[00:17:27] she'd actually

[00:17:28] protected herself

[00:17:29] was to harden

[00:17:30] her heart

[00:17:31] and then she

[00:17:31] ended up with

[00:17:32] with a real

[00:17:32] fatigue

[00:17:33] tiredness

[00:17:34] lack of emotional

[00:17:36] energy

[00:17:37] so disappointment

[00:17:39] over and over

[00:17:39] and over

[00:17:40] can lead you to

[00:17:41] having a hardened

[00:17:43] heart

[00:17:43] going too fast

[00:17:45] for far too

[00:17:46] long

[00:17:46] go go go go

[00:17:48] go go go go

[00:17:49] go go

[00:17:49] suddenly

[00:17:49] you can get

[00:17:51] yourself to a

[00:17:52] place where

[00:17:52] you're end of

[00:17:53] your rope

[00:17:53] you are absolutely

[00:17:54] done

[00:17:55] and you've

[00:17:56] realised that

[00:17:56] you've burnt

[00:17:57] yourself out

[00:17:58] by being burnt

[00:17:58] out

[00:17:59] your heart

[00:18:00] has become

[00:18:01] hardened

[00:18:01] to the world

[00:18:02] around you

[00:18:03] and another

[00:18:04] root cause

[00:18:05] would just

[00:18:05] purely be

[00:18:06] overwhelmed

[00:18:07] overwhelmed

[00:18:08] and I would

[00:18:08] say it's not

[00:18:09] just overwhelmed

[00:18:09] it's overwhelmed

[00:18:10] over a long

[00:18:11] period of time

[00:18:12] where some

[00:18:13] event

[00:18:15] something that's

[00:18:16] been going

[00:18:16] on or

[00:18:17] watching or

[00:18:18] reading

[00:18:20] traumatic

[00:18:20] news

[00:18:21] over a

[00:18:22] prolonged

[00:18:22] period of

[00:18:23] time

[00:18:23] that

[00:18:23] overwhelmness

[00:18:24] can lead

[00:18:25] to the root

[00:18:25] cause of

[00:18:26] having a

[00:18:26] hardened

[00:18:27] heart

[00:18:29] so

[00:18:29] what is

[00:18:30] a hardened

[00:18:31] heart

[00:18:32] I think

[00:18:33] now I want

[00:18:34] to just

[00:18:35] cover for a

[00:18:35] second

[00:18:35] what's the

[00:18:36] impact

[00:18:36] of a

[00:18:37] hardened

[00:18:37] heart

[00:18:38] and I

[00:18:39] think

[00:18:39] I'm going

[00:18:39] to say

[00:18:40] four things

[00:18:40] here

[00:18:40] the impact

[00:18:41] of a

[00:18:42] hardened

[00:18:42] heart

[00:18:42] is clearly

[00:18:43] on

[00:18:43] relationships

[00:18:45] how you

[00:18:45] engage

[00:18:46] with other

[00:18:46] people

[00:18:47] you know

[00:18:48] when you're

[00:18:48] emotionally

[00:18:48] burnt out

[00:18:49] when you're

[00:18:50] worn out

[00:18:51] your heart

[00:18:51] has just

[00:18:52] given up

[00:18:53] and your

[00:18:53] heart

[00:18:54] you've

[00:18:55] hardened

[00:18:55] it to

[00:18:55] keep

[00:18:56] pushing

[00:18:56] through

[00:18:56] the

[00:18:57] effect

[00:18:58] is on

[00:18:58] relationships

[00:18:58] relationships

[00:18:59] become

[00:18:59] either

[00:19:00] strained

[00:19:00] or become

[00:19:01] non-existent

[00:19:02] you don't

[00:19:03] allow anybody

[00:19:04] close

[00:19:04] and relationships

[00:19:05] then deteriorate

[00:19:07] so people feel it

[00:19:08] they know that you are just

[00:19:09] pulling away

[00:19:10] another impact

[00:19:11] would be on

[00:19:12] your personal

[00:19:13] growth

[00:19:14] when you've got a

[00:19:15] hardened heart

[00:19:16] you are no

[00:19:17] longer

[00:19:18] wide open

[00:19:19] to grow

[00:19:20] and explore

[00:19:22] and to see

[00:19:23] new things

[00:19:24] you shrink

[00:19:25] your life

[00:19:26] you shrink

[00:19:27] your heart

[00:19:27] and you have

[00:19:29] a real

[00:19:32] problem

[00:19:32] with growth

[00:19:33] you're not

[00:19:34] willing to learn

[00:19:35] you're not

[00:19:35] willing to change

[00:19:36] you're not

[00:19:36] willing to see

[00:19:37] things in a

[00:19:37] different way

[00:19:38] because you're

[00:19:38] hardened your

[00:19:39] heart to

[00:19:40] any other

[00:19:40] way of

[00:19:41] seeing

[00:19:42] the world

[00:19:43] so personal

[00:19:43] growth

[00:19:44] and transformation

[00:19:45] can stop

[00:19:46] it can also

[00:19:47] have an impact

[00:19:48] on your

[00:19:49] mental

[00:19:49] well-being

[00:19:51] so if

[00:19:52] you have

[00:19:53] been running

[00:19:53] too fast

[00:19:54] for too long

[00:19:54] or you've

[00:19:55] been overwhelmed

[00:19:56] and living in

[00:19:57] the red

[00:19:57] with that

[00:19:58] overwhelmed

[00:19:58] for too long

[00:19:59] or you've

[00:20:00] had disappointment

[00:20:01] after disappointment

[00:20:02] after disappointment

[00:20:03] or you had

[00:20:04] some trauma

[00:20:05] or past

[00:20:07] hurt

[00:20:07] and you know

[00:20:08] I'm not talking

[00:20:08] about a one-off

[00:20:09] event as well

[00:20:09] I'm talking about

[00:20:10] persistent trauma

[00:20:12] you know

[00:20:13] it's built up

[00:20:13] over time

[00:20:14] all of those

[00:20:16] things

[00:20:16] harden your

[00:20:17] heart

[00:20:17] but can

[00:20:18] lead to

[00:20:20] poor

[00:20:21] emotional

[00:20:22] and mental

[00:20:23] well-being

[00:20:25] your mental

[00:20:26] health

[00:20:27] can deteriorate

[00:20:28] and also

[00:20:29] the fourth

[00:20:30] thing there

[00:20:30] is around

[00:20:31] your spiritual

[00:20:32] life

[00:20:32] when your

[00:20:33] heart has

[00:20:34] got hard

[00:20:34] you'll notice

[00:20:36] it's hard

[00:20:36] to worship

[00:20:37] it's hard

[00:20:38] to enjoy

[00:20:38] things

[00:20:38] it's hard

[00:20:39] to engage

[00:20:40] with God

[00:20:40] and church

[00:20:41] your spiritual

[00:20:41] health

[00:20:42] will deteriorate

[00:20:43] you'll find

[00:20:43] yourself praying

[00:20:44] less

[00:20:44] being more

[00:20:46] is reserved

[00:20:47] from God

[00:20:47] holding God

[00:20:48] at a distance

[00:20:49] you'll end up

[00:20:50] sitting at the

[00:20:50] back or

[00:20:51] sitting at the

[00:20:51] side

[00:20:52] because your

[00:20:53] spiritual life

[00:20:54] has been

[00:20:54] impacted by

[00:20:55] your hardened

[00:20:57] heart

[00:20:58] so I would

[00:21:00] say this

[00:21:00] watch how

[00:21:01] you run

[00:21:02] out of

[00:21:02] emotional

[00:21:03] energy

[00:21:03] with a

[00:21:04] person

[00:21:04] there are

[00:21:06] certain

[00:21:06] people in

[00:21:07] your life

[00:21:08] where you

[00:21:09] may run

[00:21:10] out of

[00:21:11] emotional

[00:21:11] energy

[00:21:12] with them

[00:21:13] so in

[00:21:14] the same

[00:21:15] way I've

[00:21:15] talked about

[00:21:16] running

[00:21:16] too fast

[00:21:16] too long

[00:21:17] I've been

[00:21:17] overwhelmed

[00:21:19] I think

[00:21:20] if you've

[00:21:21] been supporting

[00:21:22] somebody

[00:21:23] who is a

[00:21:24] difficult person

[00:21:25] to support

[00:21:27] you may well

[00:21:28] run out of

[00:21:29] emotional energy

[00:21:30] with that

[00:21:30] person

[00:21:31] and you'll

[00:21:31] become short

[00:21:32] with them

[00:21:34] and you can

[00:21:35] be at the

[00:21:35] end of your

[00:21:35] rope

[00:21:36] you could be

[00:21:37] abrupt

[00:21:37] with them

[00:21:38] you could be

[00:21:39] intolerant

[00:21:40] with them

[00:21:40] and you might

[00:21:41] not even

[00:21:41] realise it

[00:21:42] you might

[00:21:43] not even

[00:21:44] realise it

[00:21:44] but your

[00:21:45] hardened

[00:21:45] heart

[00:21:46] is now

[00:21:47] affecting

[00:21:48] your

[00:21:48] emotional

[00:21:49] energy

[00:21:49] towards

[00:21:50] other

[00:21:51] people

[00:21:51] so you

[00:21:52] just

[00:21:52] become

[00:21:53] abrupt

[00:21:53] you

[00:21:54] become

[00:21:54] very

[00:21:54] black

[00:21:55] and

[00:21:55] white

[00:21:55] and

[00:21:56] you

[00:21:56] don't

[00:21:56] listen

[00:21:57] to

[00:21:58] them

[00:21:58] and

[00:21:59] you

[00:21:59] just

[00:21:59] have

[00:22:00] had

[00:22:00] enough

[00:22:00] I

[00:22:00] can't

[00:22:01] be

[00:22:01] giving

[00:22:01] them

[00:22:02] more

[00:22:02] time

[00:22:02] I

[00:22:02] don't

[00:22:02] want

[00:22:02] to

[00:22:02] give

[00:22:02] them

[00:22:03] any

[00:22:03] more

[00:22:03] time

[00:22:03] I

[00:22:03] got

[00:22:03] nothing

[00:22:03] to

[00:22:03] give

[00:22:04] them

[00:22:04] anymore

[00:22:04] so

[00:22:05] you

[00:22:05] have

[00:22:12] the impact

[00:22:13] our heart

[00:22:14] and heart

[00:22:14] can have

[00:22:14] on us

[00:22:15] and our

[00:22:15] relationships

[00:22:15] personal growth

[00:22:16] mental well-being

[00:22:18] spiritual life

[00:22:19] let's talk about

[00:22:20] the transformation

[00:22:21] process

[00:22:22] for a moment

[00:22:24] what is the

[00:22:24] transformation

[00:22:25] process then

[00:22:26] how do we

[00:22:27] go about

[00:22:29] changing

[00:22:30] and up front

[00:22:32] I think

[00:22:32] the answer

[00:22:33] has to

[00:22:35] clearly be

[00:22:35] it's through the

[00:22:37] work of the

[00:22:37] Holy Spirit

[00:22:38] Ezekiel 36

[00:22:39] and

[00:22:40] Ezekiel 11

[00:22:41] both talk

[00:22:42] about

[00:22:42] having

[00:22:43] a

[00:22:43] divided

[00:22:43] or

[00:22:44] hardened

[00:22:44] heart

[00:22:45] and

[00:22:46] God

[00:22:46] putting

[00:22:46] his

[00:22:46] spirit

[00:22:46] in

[00:22:47] us

[00:22:47] and

[00:22:48] he

[00:22:48] says

[00:22:48] I

[00:23:08] it's

[00:23:08] in

[00:23:08] addition

[00:23:08] to

[00:23:09] that

[00:23:09] but

[00:23:10] what

[00:23:10] you

[00:23:10] know

[00:23:10] I

[00:23:10] was

[00:23:10] saying

[00:23:10] earlier

[00:23:11] God

[00:23:11] does

[00:23:11] his

[00:23:12] part

[00:23:12] you

[00:23:12] do

[00:23:12] your

[00:23:12] part

[00:23:13] well

[00:23:13] God's

[00:23:13] part

[00:23:14] is

[00:23:14] as

[00:23:15] you

[00:23:15] pray

[00:23:15] he's

[00:23:15] going to

[00:23:16] be

[00:23:16] filling

[00:23:16] with

[00:23:16] the

[00:23:16] Holy

[00:23:16] Spirit

[00:23:17] Holy

[00:23:17] Spirit

[00:23:17] brings

[00:23:17] transformation

[00:23:18] but

[00:23:19] what

[00:23:19] do

[00:23:19] you

[00:23:19] do

[00:23:20] what

[00:23:20] are

[00:23:20] the

[00:23:20] key

[00:23:21] steps

[00:23:21] for

[00:23:21] you

[00:23:22] as

[00:23:22] part

[00:23:22] of

[00:23:23] your

[00:23:23] journey

[00:23:24] so

[00:23:25] let's

[00:23:25] just

[00:23:25] look at

[00:23:25] a few

[00:23:25] things

[00:23:26] that

[00:23:38] and

[00:23:39] when

[00:23:39] our

[00:23:39] hearts

[00:23:40] have

[00:23:40] just

[00:23:41] got

[00:23:41] hard

[00:23:41] we

[00:23:42] have

[00:23:42] to

[00:23:42] acknowledge

[00:23:43] when

[00:23:43] I've

[00:23:44] just

[00:23:44] got

[00:23:44] compassion

[00:23:45] fatigue

[00:23:46] right

[00:23:46] now

[00:23:47] I

[00:23:47] have

[00:23:47] run

[00:23:47] out

[00:23:47] of

[00:23:47] empathy

[00:23:49] right

[00:23:50] now

[00:23:50] I'm

[00:23:51] feeling

[00:23:51] quite

[00:23:51] numb

[00:23:52] right

[00:23:52] now

[00:23:53] I

[00:23:54] can

[00:23:54] see

[00:23:54] that

[00:23:55] I'm

[00:23:55] putting

[00:23:55] up

[00:23:55] the

[00:23:55] walls

[00:23:56] of

[00:23:56] self

[00:23:56] protection

[00:23:57] right

[00:23:57] now

[00:23:58] becoming

[00:23:59] aware

[00:23:59] and

[00:24:00] acknowledging

[00:24:01] it

[00:24:01] is

[00:24:02] the

[00:24:02] start

[00:24:02] of

[00:24:03] you

[00:24:03] being

[00:24:03] able

[00:24:03] to

[00:24:03] do

[00:24:03] something

[00:24:04] about

[00:24:04] it

[00:24:04] if

[00:24:04] you

[00:24:04] don't

[00:24:05] recognize

[00:24:05] that

[00:24:06] this

[00:24:06] is

[00:24:06] how

[00:24:06] you're

[00:24:06] functioning

[00:24:08] right

[00:24:08] now

[00:24:08] this

[00:24:09] is

[00:24:09] how

[00:24:09] you're

[00:24:09] getting

[00:24:09] through

[00:24:10] right

[00:24:10] now

[00:24:10] then

[00:24:11] you're

[00:24:11] not

[00:24:11] going

[00:24:11] to

[00:24:11] be

[00:24:11] able

[00:24:11] to

[00:24:11] make

[00:24:12] a

[00:24:12] change

[00:24:12] so

[00:24:12] number

[00:24:13] one

[00:24:13] awareness

[00:24:13] and

[00:24:14] acknowledging

[00:24:15] and

[00:24:15] becoming

[00:24:15] aware

[00:24:16] of

[00:24:16] what's

[00:24:17] going

[00:24:17] on

[00:24:17] inside

[00:24:17] of

[00:24:17] you

[00:24:17] number

[00:24:18] two

[00:24:19] I

[00:24:19] think

[00:24:19] we

[00:24:19] have

[00:24:37] you

[00:24:37] know

[00:24:38] becoming

[00:24:41] aware

[00:24:43] understanding

[00:24:44] your

[00:24:44] story

[00:24:44] understanding

[00:24:45] what

[00:24:45] you've

[00:24:45] gone

[00:24:45] through

[00:24:46] is

[00:24:47] a

[00:24:47] key

[00:24:47] piece

[00:24:48] of

[00:24:48] being

[00:24:48] able

[00:24:48] to

[00:24:49] journey

[00:24:49] from

[00:24:50] a

[00:24:50] heart

[00:24:50] of

[00:24:51] stone

[00:24:51] to

[00:24:51] a

[00:24:51] heart

[00:24:52] of

[00:24:52] flesh

[00:24:52] there's

[00:24:52] trauma

[00:24:53] in

[00:24:53] each

[00:24:53] of

[00:24:53] our

[00:24:53] lives

[00:24:54] that

[00:24:54] we

[00:24:54] have

[00:24:54] forgotten

[00:24:54] about

[00:24:55] that

[00:24:56] hasn't

[00:24:56] had

[00:24:56] an

[00:24:57] impact

[00:24:57] on

[00:24:58] us

[00:24:58] so

[00:24:59] understanding

[00:24:59] your

[00:24:59] story

[00:25:00] is

[00:25:00] going

[00:25:00] to be

[00:25:01] essential

[00:25:01] we

[00:25:02] have

[00:25:02] to

[00:25:02] number

[00:25:02] three

[00:25:03] choose

[00:25:03] vulnerability

[00:25:04] we've

[00:25:04] got

[00:25:05] to

[00:25:05] choose

[00:25:05] to

[00:25:05] be

[00:25:05] vulnerable

[00:25:06] with

[00:25:06] people

[00:25:06] if

[00:25:07] we

[00:25:07] choose

[00:25:08] not

[00:25:08] to

[00:25:08] be

[00:25:09] vulnerable

[00:25:09] to

[00:25:09] keep

[00:25:09] our

[00:25:10] mouths

[00:25:10] closed

[00:25:10] to

[00:25:10] not

[00:25:10] talk

[00:25:11] about

[00:25:11] what's

[00:25:11] really

[00:25:11] going

[00:25:12] on

[00:25:12] inside

[00:25:12] of

[00:25:12] us

[00:25:12] to

[00:25:13] not

[00:25:13] let

[00:25:13] others

[00:25:14] in

[00:25:14] if

[00:25:15] we

[00:25:15] choose

[00:25:15] to

[00:25:16] be

[00:25:16] like

[00:25:16] that

[00:25:16] then

[00:25:16] in

[00:25:17] not

[00:25:17] being

[00:25:17] vulnerable

[00:25:18] we're

[00:25:19] not

[00:25:19] opening

[00:25:19] ourselves

[00:25:20] up

[00:25:20] to

[00:25:20] allow

[00:25:21] God

[00:25:21] or

[00:25:21] others

[00:25:22] to

[00:25:22] speak

[00:25:22] into

[00:25:22] our

[00:25:23] lives

[00:25:24] vulnerability

[00:25:31] how

[00:25:31] do

[00:25:31] I

[00:25:31] become

[00:25:31] more

[00:25:32] vulnerable

[00:25:32] what

[00:25:33] do

[00:25:33] I

[00:25:34] need

[00:25:34] to

[00:25:35] become

[00:25:35] more

[00:25:35] vulnerable

[00:25:36] and

[00:25:37] there

[00:25:37] are

[00:25:37] simple

[00:25:38] things

[00:25:38] that

[00:25:38] you

[00:25:38] can

[00:25:39] try

[00:25:39] you

[00:25:40] can

[00:25:40] do

[00:25:40] what's

[00:25:40] called

[00:25:40] an

[00:25:40] emotional

[00:25:41] weather

[00:25:41] report

[00:25:42] where

[00:25:42] you

[00:25:43] check

[00:25:43] in

[00:25:43] with

[00:25:43] yourself

[00:25:44] if

[00:25:44] you've

[00:25:44] not

[00:25:44] heard

[00:25:45] about

[00:25:45] that

[00:25:45] give

[00:25:45] that

[00:25:45] a

[00:25:45] google

[00:25:46] where

[00:25:47] you

[00:25:47] can

[00:25:47] just

[00:25:48] check

[00:25:48] in

[00:25:49] and

[00:25:49] see

[00:25:50] what

[00:25:51] is

[00:25:51] going

[00:25:51] on

[00:25:52] for

[00:25:52] you

[00:25:53] how

[00:25:54] is

[00:25:54] life

[00:25:54] for

[00:25:55] you

[00:25:56] I

[00:25:57] think

[00:25:57] there's

[00:25:57] something

[00:25:57] on

[00:25:57] a

[00:26:01] and

[00:26:01] build

[00:26:01] up

[00:26:01] a

[00:26:02] process

[00:26:02] of

[00:26:03] becoming

[00:26:03] more

[00:26:04] vulnerable

[00:26:04] where

[00:26:05] you

[00:26:05] might

[00:26:06] share

[00:26:06] with

[00:26:07] somebody

[00:26:07] a

[00:26:07] minor

[00:26:07] disappointment

[00:26:09] by

[00:26:09] just

[00:26:10] letting

[00:26:10] yourself

[00:26:11] become

[00:26:11] a

[00:26:11] little

[00:26:12] bit

[00:26:12] vulnerable

[00:26:13] so

[00:26:13] you

[00:26:14] can't

[00:26:14] go

[00:26:14] 0-60

[00:26:15] with

[00:26:15] this

[00:26:15] stuff

[00:26:16] you've

[00:26:16] got

[00:26:16] to

[00:26:16] step

[00:26:17] by

[00:26:17] step

[00:26:17] you

[00:26:18] might

[00:26:18] share

[00:26:18] a

[00:26:19] minor

[00:26:19] disappointment

[00:26:20] you

[00:26:21] might

[00:26:21] share

[00:26:21] with

[00:26:21] somebody

[00:26:22] a

[00:26:22] hope

[00:26:22] or

[00:26:22] a

[00:26:22] dream

[00:26:23] you

[00:26:24] might

[00:26:24] admit

[00:26:24] a

[00:26:25] mistake

[00:26:25] you

[00:26:26] might

[00:26:26] share

[00:26:26] a

[00:26:31] some

[00:26:31] of

[00:26:31] us

[00:26:31] find

[00:26:31] that

[00:26:31] harder

[00:26:32] than

[00:26:32] others

[00:26:32] might

[00:26:33] share

[00:26:34] some

[00:26:34] deep

[00:26:34] feelings

[00:26:35] with

[00:26:35] somebody

[00:26:36] but

[00:26:36] by

[00:26:37] doing

[00:26:37] each

[00:26:37] of

[00:26:37] those

[00:26:37] things

[00:26:38] you

[00:26:38] are

[00:26:38] choosing

[00:26:38] to

[00:26:38] become

[00:26:39] just

[00:26:39] a

[00:26:39] little

[00:26:39] bit

[00:26:39] more

[00:26:39] vulnerable

[00:26:40] and

[00:26:40] doing

[00:26:41] that

[00:26:41] allows

[00:26:42] yourself

[00:26:42] to

[00:26:43] build

[00:26:43] on

[00:26:43] that

[00:26:43] vulnerability

[00:26:44] to the

[00:26:45] point where

[00:26:45] you can

[00:26:46] be

[00:26:46] open

[00:26:46] and

[00:26:46] honest

[00:26:47] with

[00:26:47] folk

[00:26:47] we

[00:26:48] have

[00:26:48] to

[00:26:48] be

[00:26:49] practicing

[00:26:49] forgiveness

[00:26:51] if we

[00:26:51] have

[00:26:51] a

[00:26:52] soft

[00:26:53] heart

[00:26:53] then

[00:26:53] practicing

[00:26:54] forgiveness

[00:26:54] is

[00:27:01] is

[00:27:01] the

[00:27:02] central

[00:27:02] piece

[00:27:03] of

[00:27:04] transforming

[00:27:05] our

[00:27:05] hearts

[00:27:05] and

[00:27:06] saying

[00:27:07] I

[00:27:07] am

[00:27:07] going

[00:27:07] to

[00:27:07] choose

[00:27:07] to

[00:27:08] forgive

[00:27:08] that

[00:27:08] person

[00:27:09] that

[00:27:09] does

[00:27:09] not

[00:27:09] mean

[00:27:10] that

[00:27:10] I

[00:27:10] agree

[00:27:10] with

[00:27:10] their

[00:27:11] behavior

[00:27:11] I

[00:27:11] don't

[00:27:12] like

[00:27:12] what

[00:27:12] they've

[00:27:12] done

[00:27:12] I'm

[00:27:13] choosing

[00:27:13] to

[00:27:13] set

[00:27:14] them

[00:27:14] free

[00:27:14] and

[00:27:15] by

[00:27:15] doing

[00:27:15] so

[00:27:15] we

[00:27:15] find

[00:27:16] out

[00:27:16] we're

[00:27:16] setting

[00:27:16] ourselves

[00:27:16] free

[00:27:17] so

[00:27:17] practicing

[00:27:18] forgiveness

[00:27:18] and

[00:27:19] then

[00:27:19] I

[00:27:19] would

[00:27:19] also

[00:27:19] say

[00:27:20] we

[00:27:21] have

[00:27:21] to

[00:27:21] build

[00:27:23] what

[00:27:23] you

[00:27:24] would

[00:27:24] describe

[00:27:24] as

[00:27:24] emotional

[00:27:25] intelligence

[00:27:26] what

[00:27:27] do

[00:27:27] I

[00:27:27] mean

[00:27:28] by

[00:27:28] emotional

[00:27:28] intelligence

[00:27:29] emotional

[00:27:29] intelligence

[00:27:30] is

[00:27:30] I

[00:27:31] would

[00:27:31] say

[00:27:31] the

[00:27:31] ability

[00:27:32] to

[00:27:32] understand

[00:27:33] use

[00:27:35] or

[00:27:35] manage

[00:27:36] your

[00:27:36] own

[00:27:36] emotions

[00:27:37] as

[00:27:38] well

[00:27:38] as

[00:27:38] the

[00:27:38] emotions

[00:27:39] of

[00:27:39] others

[00:27:39] so

[00:27:40] those

[00:27:42] who

[00:27:42] might

[00:27:42] have

[00:27:44] poor

[00:27:44] emotional

[00:27:44] intelligence

[00:27:45] may

[00:27:46] not

[00:27:46] understand

[00:27:46] what

[00:27:47] somebody

[00:27:47] else

[00:27:47] is

[00:27:47] going

[00:27:47] through

[00:27:48] and

[00:27:49] may

[00:27:49] not

[00:27:49] be

[00:27:49] able

[00:27:49] to

[00:27:49] manage

[00:27:50] their

[00:27:50] emotions

[00:27:50] they're

[00:27:51] up

[00:27:51] and

[00:27:51] down

[00:27:51] up

[00:27:52] and

[00:27:52] down

[00:27:52] up

[00:27:52] and

[00:27:52] down

[00:27:53] they're

[00:27:53] furious

[00:27:54] they're

[00:27:54] stomping

[00:27:55] around

[00:27:55] they're

[00:27:55] slamming

[00:27:56] doors

[00:27:57] other

[00:27:57] times

[00:27:58] they may

[00:27:58] be

[00:27:59] silent

[00:28:00] in

[00:28:00] the

[00:28:00] silent

[00:28:00] treatment

[00:28:01] so

[00:28:02] emotional

[00:28:02] intelligence

[00:28:03] becoming

[00:28:03] somebody

[00:28:04] who manages

[00:28:04] our

[00:28:05] emotions

[00:28:05] well

[00:28:06] so

[00:28:07] I think

[00:28:09] these

[00:28:09] are

[00:28:09] key

[00:28:09] steps

[00:28:10] for

[00:28:10] us

[00:28:10] in

[00:28:11] personally

[00:28:12] taking

[00:28:12] responsibility

[00:28:13] for

[00:28:14] what is

[00:28:16] going on

[00:28:16] with our

[00:28:17] hearts

[00:28:17] awareness

[00:28:18] and

[00:28:18] knowledge

[00:28:19] understand

[00:28:19] our

[00:28:20] story

[00:28:20] choosing

[00:28:20] vulnerability

[00:28:21] practicing

[00:28:22] forgiveness

[00:28:22] and

[00:28:23] building

[00:28:23] emotional

[00:28:24] intelligence

[00:28:26] so

[00:28:27] I think

[00:28:27] these

[00:28:28] are the

[00:28:28] things

[00:28:28] that we

[00:28:28] need

[00:28:29] to be

[00:28:29] doing

[00:28:29] forgiving

[00:28:30] others

[00:28:31] is a

[00:28:32] key thing

[00:28:32] here

[00:28:32] isn't it

[00:28:33] forgiving

[00:28:34] somebody

[00:28:34] else

[00:28:34] is a

[00:28:35] start

[00:28:35] of

[00:28:36] moving

[00:28:37] from

[00:28:37] a heart

[00:28:38] of stone

[00:28:38] to a

[00:28:39] heart

[00:28:39] of flesh

[00:28:40] I

[00:28:41] was

[00:28:41] sat

[00:28:42] with

[00:28:42] somebody

[00:28:43] a number

[00:28:44] of years

[00:28:44] ago

[00:28:45] now

[00:28:45] who

[00:28:46] just

[00:28:47] shared

[00:28:48] with me

[00:28:50] how they

[00:28:51] were doing

[00:28:51] how they

[00:28:52] felt

[00:28:52] burnt

[00:28:52] out

[00:28:53] how they

[00:28:54] felt

[00:28:54] people

[00:28:54] had hurt

[00:28:55] them

[00:28:55] how they

[00:28:56] felt

[00:28:56] that they

[00:28:57] had been

[00:28:57] tritted

[00:28:57] on

[00:28:57] and used

[00:28:59] and I

[00:29:00] asked them

[00:29:02] just to

[00:29:02] spend a bit

[00:29:03] of time

[00:29:03] with me

[00:29:03] thinking about

[00:29:04] who they

[00:29:04] might need

[00:29:05] to forgive

[00:29:06] even though

[00:29:08] the individuals

[00:29:09] might not even

[00:29:09] realise they

[00:29:10] need that

[00:29:10] but you know

[00:29:11] who might

[00:29:12] you need

[00:29:12] to forgive

[00:29:12] and we

[00:29:13] just

[00:29:13] spent time

[00:29:14] just writing

[00:29:14] a list

[00:29:15] and we

[00:29:16] said look

[00:29:17] can we just

[00:29:17] hand these

[00:29:17] people to God

[00:29:18] and say God

[00:29:18] you know

[00:29:19] this individual

[00:29:20] wants to

[00:29:20] be forgiving

[00:29:22] and forgive

[00:29:22] them

[00:29:23] and it's

[00:29:23] actually

[00:29:23] having an

[00:29:23] effect

[00:29:24] on them

[00:29:24] do you

[00:29:25] know what

[00:29:26] we did

[00:29:27] that prayer

[00:29:27] we asked

[00:29:29] for forgiveness

[00:29:29] the knock

[00:29:31] on effect

[00:29:31] was quite

[00:29:32] incredible

[00:29:32] so not only

[00:29:33] did they feel

[00:29:34] lighter hearted

[00:29:35] like a

[00:29:36] light hearted

[00:29:37] lighter heart

[00:29:38] less burdened

[00:29:39] you might say

[00:29:40] but also it did

[00:29:41] have a knock

[00:29:42] on effect

[00:29:52] carrying this

[00:29:53] anger and

[00:29:54] hurt inside

[00:29:55] of them

[00:29:55] and not only

[00:29:56] had their

[00:29:57] heart gone

[00:29:57] hard

[00:29:57] actually

[00:29:58] muscles

[00:29:59] in their

[00:30:00] bodies

[00:30:00] were tense

[00:30:01] they were

[00:30:02] carrying the

[00:30:03] hurt in

[00:30:04] their bodies

[00:30:04] and as

[00:30:06] they

[00:30:07] forgave

[00:30:08] the people

[00:30:09] they needed

[00:30:09] to forgive

[00:30:10] the knock

[00:30:11] on effect

[00:30:11] was they

[00:30:11] experienced

[00:30:12] it in

[00:30:12] their physical

[00:30:13] bodies

[00:30:13] their bodies

[00:30:14] changed

[00:30:15] their bodies

[00:30:16] became

[00:30:20] healthier

[00:30:20] you could say

[00:30:21] I guess

[00:30:23] healthier

[00:30:23] well

[00:30:25] not carrying

[00:30:26] that burden

[00:30:28] so that's

[00:30:29] key steps

[00:30:30] to your

[00:30:31] journey

[00:30:32] from

[00:30:32] heart

[00:30:33] hearts

[00:30:33] to heart

[00:30:34] of stone

[00:30:34] let's just

[00:30:35] talk about

[00:30:36] practical

[00:30:36] exercises

[00:30:37] for a moment

[00:30:38] that you might

[00:30:39] find helpful

[00:30:40] in doing this

[00:30:41] prayer and

[00:30:42] holy spirit

[00:30:42] underlining that

[00:30:43] again and again

[00:30:44] praying to

[00:30:45] God

[00:30:45] waiting on the

[00:30:46] holy spirit

[00:30:46] is going to

[00:30:47] be really

[00:30:47] important

[00:30:48] all of what

[00:30:48] we've now

[00:30:49] got to say

[00:30:49] is with

[00:30:50] the background

[00:30:51] of prayer

[00:30:51] and holy

[00:30:52] spirit

[00:30:52] so a practical

[00:30:53] exercise that

[00:30:54] you might find

[00:30:54] helpful is

[00:30:55] just journaling

[00:30:56] writing out

[00:30:57] what's happening

[00:30:57] inside of you

[00:30:58] why you feel

[00:30:59] the way that

[00:31:00] you feel

[00:31:02] I remember

[00:31:02] asking somebody

[00:31:03] to do this

[00:31:04] that I was

[00:31:05] discipling when

[00:31:05] they brought

[00:31:06] their notes

[00:31:06] back to me

[00:31:06] I couldn't

[00:31:07] believe how

[00:31:07] many expletives

[00:31:08] was on the

[00:31:09] page

[00:31:10] they were

[00:31:10] angry

[00:31:11] and it

[00:31:11] came out

[00:31:12] as fury

[00:31:13] came out

[00:31:14] as fury

[00:31:14] and I was

[00:31:14] like wow

[00:31:15] you are

[00:31:15] carrying

[00:31:16] this

[00:31:16] anger

[00:31:17] inside of

[00:31:18] you

[00:31:18] no wonder

[00:31:19] you express

[00:31:20] this sense

[00:31:21] of numbness

[00:31:22] and indifference

[00:31:23] and not

[00:31:24] having empathy

[00:31:25] and not being

[00:31:26] willing to be

[00:31:27] vulnerable

[00:31:27] and no wonder

[00:31:28] because inside

[00:31:29] you've got all

[00:31:30] this anger

[00:31:30] going on

[00:31:31] and I got them

[00:31:32] to journal

[00:31:32] and just write

[00:31:33] their feelings

[00:31:34] down

[00:31:35] and what they

[00:31:36] did was they

[00:31:37] just wrote

[00:31:37] letters of

[00:31:38] anger

[00:31:38] but what

[00:31:39] happened was

[00:31:40] they started

[00:31:41] to process

[00:31:41] this anger

[00:31:43] and get it

[00:31:44] out of them

[00:31:44] so journaling

[00:31:45] can be

[00:31:46] super

[00:31:46] super

[00:31:46] helpful

[00:31:48] writing

[00:31:48] letters

[00:31:49] to someone

[00:31:49] else

[00:31:49] but never

[00:31:50] sending

[00:31:50] them

[00:31:50] like

[00:31:51] journaling

[00:31:51] can be

[00:31:52] super

[00:31:52] helpful

[00:31:52] as well

[00:31:53] as you

[00:31:53] process

[00:31:54] what you

[00:31:54] have been

[00:31:55] through

[00:31:56] writing an

[00:31:57] email

[00:31:57] that you

[00:31:57] never

[00:31:58] send

[00:31:58] a letter

[00:31:59] that you're

[00:31:59] never going

[00:31:59] to intend

[00:32:00] to send

[00:32:00] but you

[00:32:00] write it

[00:32:01] I remember

[00:32:02] I was going

[00:32:02] through a

[00:32:03] really rough

[00:32:03] season

[00:32:05] when I was

[00:32:06] in my last

[00:32:07] church

[00:32:08] and I won't

[00:32:09] say too much

[00:32:09] about it

[00:32:09] I was going

[00:32:10] through a

[00:32:10] really rough

[00:32:10] season

[00:32:11] and I

[00:32:11] decided to

[00:32:12] write a

[00:32:12] letter to

[00:32:13] God

[00:32:14] and I

[00:32:15] was writing

[00:32:15] a letter

[00:32:15] to God

[00:32:16] about why

[00:32:17] I thought

[00:32:17] I should

[00:32:18] not be

[00:32:18] a church

[00:32:19] leader

[00:32:20] and the

[00:32:21] struggle

[00:32:22] that I

[00:32:22] had

[00:32:23] being a

[00:32:24] shepherd

[00:32:24] of sheep

[00:32:25] that bite

[00:32:25] and I

[00:32:26] wrote this

[00:32:27] letter to

[00:32:27] God

[00:32:27] and I

[00:32:27] stamped it

[00:32:28] out

[00:32:28] on my

[00:32:29] laptop

[00:32:30] and I

[00:32:30] just

[00:32:30] saved it

[00:32:30] onto my

[00:32:31] desktop

[00:32:32] I didn't

[00:32:32] send it

[00:32:33] to anybody

[00:32:33] how do you

[00:32:34] send that

[00:32:34] to God

[00:32:35] but it

[00:32:35] was a way

[00:32:35] of me

[00:32:36] getting

[00:32:36] this

[00:32:37] out

[00:32:37] and you

[00:32:37] know

[00:32:37] I've

[00:32:38] seen

[00:32:38] that

[00:32:39] on my

[00:32:39] desktop

[00:32:39] I've

[00:32:40] deleted

[00:32:40] it

[00:32:40] now

[00:32:41] but I've

[00:32:41] seen it

[00:32:42] on my

[00:32:42] desktop a

[00:32:42] number of

[00:32:42] times over

[00:32:43] the years

[00:32:43] and I was

[00:32:43] like oh

[00:32:44] yeah

[00:32:44] that was a

[00:32:45] real moment

[00:32:46] real turning

[00:32:46] point for

[00:32:47] me in

[00:32:48] being able to

[00:32:48] process and

[00:32:49] work through

[00:32:49] what I was

[00:32:50] going through

[00:32:52] meditation

[00:32:52] like prayer

[00:32:54] spending time

[00:32:54] meditating

[00:32:56] on what's

[00:32:56] going on

[00:32:57] inside of

[00:32:57] you

[00:32:58] a bit like

[00:32:58] journaling

[00:32:58] but without

[00:32:59] the writing

[00:32:59] it down

[00:33:00] but taking

[00:33:01] time to

[00:33:01] just listen

[00:33:02] to yourself

[00:33:05] there is

[00:33:06] connection

[00:33:06] exercises that

[00:33:07] you can do

[00:33:09] that help

[00:33:10] you connect

[00:33:10] with your

[00:33:11] own

[00:33:12] emotions

[00:33:14] and one

[00:33:15] of those

[00:33:15] connection

[00:33:15] exercises is

[00:33:16] just talking

[00:33:17] it out

[00:33:17] with somebody

[00:33:18] else

[00:33:18] yes it

[00:33:18] is writing

[00:33:19] it out

[00:33:20] with somebody

[00:33:21] else

[00:33:24] there may be

[00:33:25] other ways

[00:33:25] that you find

[00:33:26] that just help

[00:33:26] you connect

[00:33:27] with the

[00:33:28] stuff that

[00:33:29] you are going

[00:33:30] through

[00:33:30] the stuff that

[00:33:31] you're carrying

[00:33:33] and there

[00:33:34] is a

[00:33:35] particular

[00:33:36] exercise

[00:33:36] that some

[00:33:36] people find

[00:33:37] really helpful

[00:33:37] it's a

[00:33:38] group

[00:33:38] connection

[00:33:39] exercise

[00:33:39] exercise

[00:33:39] where

[00:33:40] basically

[00:33:40] four to

[00:33:41] six

[00:33:41] people

[00:33:43] they sit

[00:33:43] in a

[00:33:44] circle

[00:33:45] and each

[00:33:46] take turns

[00:33:47] to talk

[00:33:48] through their

[00:33:48] current

[00:33:49] challenges

[00:33:49] their

[00:33:49] current

[00:33:50] joys

[00:33:50] their hopes

[00:33:51] for the

[00:33:51] future

[00:33:51] the struggles

[00:33:52] that they've

[00:33:52] gone through

[00:33:53] it's like a

[00:33:53] group exercise

[00:33:54] of just

[00:33:54] connecting

[00:33:55] with yourself

[00:33:57] connecting

[00:33:58] with what's

[00:33:58] going inside

[00:33:59] of you

[00:33:59] and hearing

[00:34:00] what's going

[00:34:00] on with

[00:34:01] someone else

[00:34:01] so connection

[00:34:02] exercises

[00:34:02] might be

[00:34:03] helpful

[00:34:04] and

[00:34:04] you know

[00:34:05] kind of said

[00:34:06] this right

[00:34:06] at the

[00:34:06] beginning

[00:34:07] but friends

[00:34:07] a practical

[00:34:08] exercise

[00:34:09] is basically

[00:34:10] getting in

[00:34:10] the room

[00:34:10] with somebody

[00:34:11] wise

[00:34:12] somebody

[00:34:13] good

[00:34:13] somebody

[00:34:14] that will

[00:34:14] not collude

[00:34:15] with you

[00:34:15] but will

[00:34:16] work with

[00:34:17] you

[00:34:17] somebody

[00:34:17] that's not

[00:34:17] just going

[00:34:17] to agree

[00:34:18] with everything

[00:34:18] you say

[00:34:19] but might

[00:34:19] push back

[00:34:20] a little bit

[00:34:20] and challenge

[00:34:21] you

[00:34:21] I'm not sure

[00:34:22] about that

[00:34:25] so yeah

[00:34:26] practical

[00:34:27] exercises

[00:34:27] that might

[00:34:28] help you

[00:34:28] just engage

[00:34:29] with yourself

[00:34:30] here

[00:34:31] that might

[00:34:32] help you

[00:34:32] address your

[00:34:33] fears

[00:34:33] might help

[00:34:34] you manage

[00:34:35] some of

[00:34:35] that discomfort

[00:34:36] that might

[00:34:37] help you

[00:34:37] seek support

[00:34:38] getting wisdom

[00:34:39] spoken into

[00:34:40] your life

[00:34:41] so these

[00:34:43] practical

[00:34:43] exercises

[00:34:44] could be

[00:34:44] really helpful

[00:34:45] for you

[00:34:46] as you

[00:34:46] owning

[00:34:48] yourself

[00:34:48] but let's

[00:34:50] talk about

[00:34:50] maintaining

[00:34:51] a heart

[00:34:52] of flesh

[00:34:53] so it

[00:34:53] may be

[00:34:54] that you

[00:34:54] don't have

[00:34:55] a hard

[00:34:56] heart

[00:34:56] but you

[00:34:57] recognize

[00:34:58] that you

[00:34:58] just need

[00:34:58] to maintain

[00:34:59] your heart

[00:34:59] and just

[00:35:00] hear some

[00:35:00] very quick

[00:35:01] ideas

[00:35:01] of things

[00:35:02] you could

[00:35:02] do

[00:35:02] that would

[00:35:03] help

[00:35:03] maintain

[00:35:04] a heart

[00:35:04] of flesh

[00:35:05] rather than

[00:35:06] allowing things

[00:35:06] get into

[00:35:07] a heart

[00:35:07] of stone

[00:35:07] number one

[00:35:08] confession

[00:35:09] weekly confession

[00:35:10] at church

[00:35:10] I just find

[00:35:11] this a

[00:35:11] you know

[00:35:12] every Sunday

[00:35:13] at my church

[00:35:13] we do a little

[00:35:14] confession

[00:35:14] where we

[00:35:15] confess

[00:35:16] corporately

[00:35:17] and it's a

[00:35:17] great way

[00:35:18] of me just

[00:35:18] checking in

[00:35:19] with myself

[00:35:19] and putting

[00:35:20] down

[00:35:20] the things

[00:35:20] I might

[00:35:21] need to

[00:35:21] put down

[00:35:21] and saying

[00:35:22] look

[00:35:22] done

[00:35:22] with that

[00:35:23] I'm gonna

[00:35:24] move on

[00:35:25] so confession

[00:35:26] is a key

[00:35:26] thing that we

[00:35:27] could do

[00:35:27] another thing

[00:35:28] you could do

[00:35:29] is have

[00:35:29] a regular

[00:35:30] exercise

[00:35:31] of gratitude

[00:35:32] each day

[00:35:34] saying what

[00:35:35] it is that

[00:35:36] you are

[00:35:36] grateful for

[00:35:38] and what

[00:35:39] has been a

[00:35:39] blessing

[00:35:40] in your

[00:35:41] day

[00:35:42] and another

[00:35:43] thing will

[00:35:44] be what's

[00:35:44] called self

[00:35:45] compassion

[00:35:46] routines

[00:35:46] there are

[00:35:47] things that

[00:35:47] you could

[00:35:47] do that

[00:35:48] can give

[00:35:48] yourself

[00:35:49] self

[00:35:50] compassion

[00:35:50] spending

[00:35:51] time

[00:35:52] with

[00:35:52] yourself

[00:35:54] where you

[00:35:54] say I'm

[00:35:55] not gonna beat

[00:35:56] myself up

[00:35:56] about this

[00:35:57] any longer

[00:35:57] I keep

[00:35:58] beating

[00:35:58] myself up

[00:35:59] over and

[00:35:59] over and

[00:36:00] over about

[00:36:00] the same

[00:36:00] things

[00:36:00] that can be

[00:36:02] really important

[00:36:02] and the other

[00:36:03] thing about

[00:36:03] maintaining a

[00:36:04] heart of flesh

[00:36:05] if you are not

[00:36:05] taking sabbath

[00:36:06] rests

[00:36:07] please don't

[00:36:08] talk to me

[00:36:09] about having

[00:36:10] a hardened

[00:36:11] heart

[00:36:11] God has

[00:36:12] told us

[00:36:13] sabbath

[00:36:14] rest

[00:36:15] take time

[00:36:16] with him

[00:36:17] regular resting

[00:36:18] in God's

[00:36:19] presence is

[00:36:20] a necessity

[00:36:21] if we aren't

[00:36:22] doing that

[00:36:22] we are gonna

[00:36:24] get calluses

[00:36:25] on our hearts

[00:36:25] we are gonna

[00:36:26] get bitter

[00:36:26] we are gonna

[00:36:27] get compassion

[00:36:28] fatigue

[00:36:29] regular sabbath

[00:36:30] resting

[00:36:31] is essential

[00:36:33] routine

[00:36:33] for us

[00:36:35] to keep

[00:36:35] a heart

[00:36:36] of flesh

[00:36:38] a couple

[00:36:39] of other

[00:36:39] things then

[00:36:40] I think around

[00:36:41] creating sustainable

[00:36:41] hearts of flesh

[00:36:44] will be

[00:36:44] friends you've

[00:36:45] got to build

[00:36:45] support systems

[00:36:46] if you've not

[00:36:47] got yourself

[00:36:47] in a small

[00:36:48] group or a

[00:36:49] prayer tripler

[00:36:49] or a group

[00:36:50] of other

[00:36:50] people that

[00:36:51] will support

[00:36:51] and hold

[00:36:52] you

[00:36:52] then how

[00:36:53] are you

[00:36:53] gonna maintain

[00:36:54] yourself

[00:36:55] so building

[00:36:56] support systems

[00:36:57] is essential

[00:36:59] having regular

[00:37:01] retreat time

[00:37:02] where you can

[00:37:03] self reflect

[00:37:04] on how you

[00:37:05] are doing

[00:37:05] it's essential

[00:37:07] putting in

[00:37:08] healthy boundaries

[00:37:09] with people

[00:37:10] and I say

[00:37:11] healthy boundaries

[00:37:12] this is

[00:37:13] putting in

[00:37:14] healthy boundaries

[00:37:14] boundaries

[00:37:15] with people

[00:37:15] with people

[00:37:17] and you

[00:37:20] know

[00:37:20] I've seen

[00:37:21] that person

[00:37:22] twice this

[00:37:22] week

[00:37:22] if I see

[00:37:23] them three

[00:37:23] times

[00:37:24] they just

[00:37:25] take everything

[00:37:26] they take

[00:37:26] some people

[00:37:27] friends are

[00:37:27] black holes

[00:37:27] if you give

[00:37:28] them a minute

[00:37:29] they'll take

[00:37:29] it

[00:37:29] you give

[00:37:30] them an hour

[00:37:30] they'll take

[00:37:31] it

[00:37:31] you give

[00:37:31] them a week

[00:37:32] they will

[00:37:32] take it

[00:37:33] they're a

[00:37:33] black hole

[00:37:34] so having

[00:37:34] healthy boundaries

[00:37:35] that says

[00:37:36] actually to

[00:37:37] maintain myself

[00:37:39] and support

[00:37:40] them I need

[00:37:40] to put in

[00:37:41] some boundaries

[00:37:42] can be

[00:37:42] essential

[00:37:43] so friends

[00:37:44] that's a bit

[00:37:44] of a whistle

[00:37:45] stop tour

[00:37:46] there

[00:37:46] what we

[00:37:46] talked about

[00:37:47] we talked

[00:37:47] about

[00:37:48] Ezekiel

[00:37:49] that clearly

[00:37:50] talks about

[00:37:50] a heart of

[00:37:51] stone

[00:37:51] and a heart

[00:37:51] of flesh

[00:37:52] we talked

[00:37:52] about what

[00:37:53] a heart

[00:37:53] of stone

[00:37:54] is

[00:37:54] and what

[00:37:55] the signs

[00:37:55] and characteristics

[00:37:56] of it are

[00:37:57] we talked

[00:37:58] about what

[00:37:58] the root

[00:37:59] causes are

[00:37:59] and the

[00:38:00] impact

[00:38:00] of a heart

[00:38:01] of stone

[00:38:01] on our

[00:38:02] relationships

[00:38:03] personal

[00:38:03] growth

[00:38:03] mental

[00:38:04] well-being

[00:38:04] spiritual

[00:38:05] life

[00:38:06] we've then

[00:38:06] talked

[00:38:07] about

[00:38:07] well God

[00:38:08] does his

[00:38:08] bit

[00:38:09] what do

[00:38:09] we need

[00:38:09] to do

[00:38:10] what's our

[00:38:10] part

[00:38:10] we talked

[00:38:11] about the

[00:38:11] key

[00:38:11] steps

[00:38:11] of the

[00:38:12] journey

[00:38:12] of self

[00:38:13] awareness

[00:38:14] acknowledging

[00:38:15] what's

[00:38:15] going on

[00:38:15] understanding

[00:38:16] our stories

[00:38:17] choosing

[00:38:17] vulnerability

[00:38:18] practicing

[00:38:18] forgiveness

[00:38:19] building

[00:38:20] emotional

[00:38:20] intelligence

[00:38:21] these are

[00:38:21] key steps

[00:38:22] for us

[00:38:22] in

[00:38:23] knowing

[00:38:24] ourselves

[00:38:24] and knowing

[00:38:25] our needs

[00:38:25] we've talked

[00:38:26] about

[00:38:26] exercises

[00:38:27] that we

[00:38:27] could do

[00:38:28] waiting

[00:38:29] on the

[00:38:29] Holy Spirit

[00:38:30] journaling

[00:38:30] meditation

[00:38:31] all that

[00:38:31] kind of

[00:38:32] stuff

[00:38:32] exercises

[00:38:33] that we

[00:38:33] can do

[00:38:33] to work

[00:38:34] on

[00:38:34] ourselves

[00:38:35] and then

[00:38:35] we talked

[00:38:36] about

[00:38:36] actually

[00:38:37] to maintain

[00:38:38] a heart

[00:38:39] of flesh

[00:38:39] there are

[00:38:40] some disciplines

[00:38:40] that we might

[00:38:41] need to do

[00:38:41] and we covered

[00:38:42] those

[00:38:42] so friends

[00:38:42] we've covered

[00:38:43] quite a bit

[00:38:44] there

[00:38:45] forgive me

[00:38:46] if it was

[00:38:46] quite a dry

[00:38:47] episode

[00:38:47] but it's

[00:38:48] quite hopefully

[00:38:48] quite an

[00:38:49] interesting episode

[00:38:49] because I can

[00:38:50] bet I will

[00:38:51] now get a whole

[00:38:52] string of

[00:38:53] listeners going

[00:38:54] gosh Chris

[00:38:54] I really

[00:38:55] I really have

[00:38:56] a hard

[00:38:56] heart

[00:38:56] towards

[00:38:57] a person

[00:38:57] a place

[00:38:59] a group

[00:39:00] of people

[00:39:00] and it's

[00:39:01] stopping me

[00:39:02] from being

[00:39:03] all that

[00:39:04] God has

[00:39:04] created

[00:39:04] to be

[00:39:05] I can

[00:39:05] guarantee

[00:39:05] that's

[00:39:06] what I'll

[00:39:06] get messages

[00:39:07] from

[00:39:07] folk

[00:39:07] because

[00:39:08] many of

[00:39:09] us

[00:39:09] are living

[00:39:10] with the

[00:39:11] effects

[00:39:12] of long

[00:39:12] term

[00:39:12] trauma

[00:39:13] long term

[00:39:13] burnout

[00:39:14] going too

[00:39:15] fast

[00:39:15] for far

[00:39:15] too

[00:39:15] long

[00:39:16] feeling

[00:39:16] overwhelmed

[00:39:17] and it's

[00:39:17] had a

[00:39:18] knock on

[00:39:18] effect

[00:39:18] on each

[00:39:24] of a

[00:39:24] hardened

[00:39:25] heart

[00:39:25] rather

[00:39:25] than

[00:39:26] out

[00:39:26] of a

[00:39:26] place

[00:39:26] of a

[00:39:27] soft

[00:39:27] heart

[00:39:28] let me

[00:39:29] just pray

[00:39:29] for us

[00:39:29] God

[00:39:31] you want

[00:39:32] us to

[00:39:32] have a

[00:39:32] heart

[00:39:32] of

[00:39:33] flesh

[00:39:34] unfortunately

[00:39:35] so many

[00:39:36] of us

[00:39:36] have a

[00:39:37] heart

[00:39:37] of

[00:39:37] stone

[00:39:37] and

[00:39:38] we

[00:39:38] don't

[00:39:39] even

[00:39:39] know

[00:39:39] sometimes

[00:39:40] how we've

[00:39:40] got there

[00:39:41] but we

[00:39:41] have

[00:39:42] Lord

[00:39:42] would you

[00:39:43] practice

[00:39:46] on

[00:39:47] us

[00:39:47] a heart

[00:39:48] transplant

[00:39:49] by your

[00:39:50] Holy Spirit

[00:39:51] and through

[00:39:52] our own

[00:39:52] actions

[00:39:53] of choosing

[00:39:54] to work

[00:39:55] through

[00:39:55] what has

[00:39:56] already

[00:39:57] traumatised

[00:39:57] us

[00:39:58] and to

[00:39:58] work

[00:39:59] through

[00:39:59] to a

[00:40:00] place

[00:40:00] of

[00:40:01] softness

[00:40:02] and compassion

[00:40:02] and grace

[00:40:04] as you

[00:40:04] move

[00:40:05] and as we

[00:40:05] move

[00:40:05] would we

[00:40:06] experience

[00:40:06] that change

[00:40:07] from a

[00:40:07] heart of

[00:40:08] stone

[00:40:08] to a

[00:40:08] heart

[00:40:09] of flesh

[00:40:10] we pray

[00:40:10] that the

[00:40:11] powerful

[00:40:11] name of

[00:40:11] Jesus

[00:40:12] and all

[00:40:12] the saints

[00:40:12] said

[00:40:13] Amen

[00:40:14] friends

[00:40:14] until next

[00:40:15] time

[00:40:15] grace

[00:40:15] and peace

[00:40:17] and I

[00:40:17] hope that

[00:40:18] you have

[00:40:18] a

[00:40:24] Amen